The Myth of Having it All
Today I had some thoughts about “having it all.” I think we have been sold a bill of goods that we need to have a bunch of things in order to be happy. I’m such a slow learner I’ve climbed that mountain more than twice…accumulating all of the things and then realizing I had to care for them, insure them, get them cleaned, or worry about them…or all of the above.
My husband and I downsized, simplified, and became virtual minimalists (and virtual workers as well) a few years ago, and recently we moved to Nashville. Why share this with you? Well, I’ve worked with thousands of professionals over the years and the happiest ones were those that found a level of simplicity and joy. Those who were the most miserable were constantly worrying about something (not necessary someone).
I wanted to interject some positivity and encouragement into your days, especially since you’re taking the time to read this:
You don’t have to do it all. Trying to do it all just might drive you mad. You could spend your whole life in pursuit and miss the joy and happiness right at your fingertips. When was the last time you just didn’t do something and the world didn’t come to an end? Try just crossing something off of your “to do” list, and go get a massage instead. Or take a long lunch, or call someone you haven’t talked to in 25 years.
You don’t have to have it all. Just the things you want. You actually don’t own things, they own you. So make sure that every single thing you own brings you this much joy and happiness.
You don’t have to be it all. This is your life, and the only person you truly have to make happy is you. Keep in mind, the happier you are, the happier those around you will be.
You can live authentically, design a life you love, and be happy (finally)! I’ve written all about that in here.
Remember this: whoever told you it was imperative for you to have, do, and be it all didn’t know what they were talking about. 🙂 Just sayin’.
Best wishes for your success. Be sure to let me know how I can support you.
Cool things …
Listen: The audiobook version of You Must Write a Book was done by none other than the amazing Rob Actis. You can give it a listen here.
Watch: The Magic of Visualization (it’s Tony Robbins, ya’ll, so be sure to watch it before 5 p.m.)
Write faster: Listen to this episode of The Author Biz Podcast about using Dragon Dictate for ALL of your writing (even if you aren’t writing a book).
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